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unemployment

Posted in home on April 7, 2009 by alissaclare

I believe that unemployment has brought me closer to my husband.  Of course my views on this matter are only one side of the coin but I’m enjoying this phase of our life right now.  I enjoy having a husband who doesn’t come home every night, defeated from his day.  

I’ve always been so proud of my husband, his integrity, his loyalty, his high standards and I’ve fallen in love with him all over again seeing those things come to the surface once again, untainted by “it’s business” by budgets and numbers and a request for him to forgo doing his best and instead, do his fastest.

I’ve fallen in love with him all over again for his confidence in himself as a man.  For seeing as clear as day, once again, that his job does not define who he is as a person.  That it is not an intgral part of his identity.  

I’ve fallen in love with him again for his loyalty, for not letting being let go by his brother-in-law hurt his relationship with family.  For letting it make it even stronger, for reaching out and offering himself as a sounding board to said brother-in-law when he knows the stress of potentially losing his business or laying off another employee has to be debilitating at times.  

I’ve fallen in love with him again for his desire to stay busy, for his time management, for his conscious decision every day to make the most of this time, to do some soul searching and use this time to his advantage, to make our home, to plan our future, to focus on himself and us.

I know this economy stinks, and that in so many ways we are so blessed to be able to live on my income, to be in a place where the fact that he is unemployed doesn’t keep us up at night.  To appreciate the sacrifices we’ve had to make, and each other even more.

Because of this, I can’t say this was a bad thing that happened, him being laid off.  I can honestly say it was a blessing.  This blessing has stripped away everything, and has brought me closer to my husband, my love, my best friend.  For that, I am truly thankful.

sylvia jennifer

Posted in home on March 17, 2009 by alissaclare

I am officially an auntie again.   Although I didn’t have a preference as to a niece or nephew, I’m glad that my nieces will get to experience the joy of sisters.

 

Sylvia Jennifer

7lbs

6oz

19″

financial peace

Posted in home on March 11, 2009 by alissaclare

For the past 6 weeks or so, we’ve been doing Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University.  I was thinking about getting an FPU tattoo on my forehead to advertise the program, that’s how much I love it.

Granted, we’re not very far, but we have a plan, and we can fantasize about what life will be like when we have absolutely no debt.  I remember watching the video the first week, a couple was talking about how they were just a few months away from PAYING OFF THEIR HOUSE.  I turned to E and said “I want to know how to do that”.  Seriously.  Do you know of ANYONE else who has gone down to one income and is excited about their finances?

So yeah, it’s going to take us a while, but I seriously look forward to doing our budget and paying our bills now, I can’t wait to see the credit cards fall off one by one, to see our savings grow and to bask in the comfort that is financial freedom.

My current worry?  What will I worry about when I don’t need to worry about money?

I’ll figure something out.

good intentions

Posted in home on February 20, 2009 by alissaclare

Ever since e was laid off, we’ve witnessed an absolute outpouring of support from friends, family and strangers.  Really, we’ve felt so absolutely loved and cared about and it just kind of overwhelms us.  However, we’ve also noticed that there has been a lot of “God has a plan” and “when one door closes, another one opens” type comments.  We whole heartedly believe this, we really do.  Honestly, I’ve seen so many coincidences leading up to this lay off that my faith is strong.  It’s just, there is something about someone just throwing that out there without a lot of thought behind it.  I know people don’t really know what to say when something like this happens, and I completely recognize the good intentions, I’m just starting to equate comments like “when one door opens…” to “they really are in a better place now…” when you’re grieving the passing of someone you love.  I’m looking for a more thought out comment I guess, and I may be asking too much.